How to Tell if Someone Is Falling in Love With You

"O love is a crooked thing, there is nobody wise enough to find out all that is in it," wrote William Butler Yeats. Indeed, knowing when a person has fallen in love with you can be tricky to determine. Rutgers University researcher Helen Fisher, in her book "Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love," categorizes love as developing through 3 stages: lust, attraction and attachment. Knowing what stage your significant other may be experiencing requires examining her actions, behaviors and attitudes.

Instructions

1. • 1
     Pay close attention to your partner's body language when he is around you. In UCLA psychologist Albert Mehrabian's famous study, he concluded that 55 percent of how an individual felt about someone could be ascertained through his body language. If your significant other initiates a lot of physical contact when near you, then odds are he has strong feelings toward you.
   • 2
     Examine your partner's tone with you during conversation, then compare her tone when talking with others. Mehrabian believed that 38 percent of how a person felt about someone could be ascertained through the tone she used when talking about and toward that person. If your significant other uses a sweet, caring and compassionate tone when talking to you, it is likely that her attraction toward you is growing.
   • 3
     Avoid making any decisions about how your partner feels toward you immediately following sex. Oxytocin is a intoxicating hormone released by both men and women during an orgasm, causing an increased sense of attachment and bonding. Determining your partner loves you during a post-coitus cuddle could incorrectly sway your opinion about how your partner feels about you due to an increased hormonal secretion.
   • 4
     Count the number of times your significant other contacts you throughout the day. Studies show that individuals claiming to be in love exhibit higher levels of serotonin in the brain. Researchers believe that high levels of serotonin is what causes a person to constantly think about a significant other, therefore, the more he calls, the more he is obviously thinking about you.
   • 5
     Ask your significant other how she feels about you and whether or not she loves you. By being blunt and straightforward, you have the best chance of knowing how your partner feels about you if you directly ask her. When asking your partner her feelings, be prepared to hear either yes or no as an answer to the question.